I'm Brilliant! How are you?

How am I? I'm Brilliant. Great. Fantastic. Fabulous.

How are you feeling today?

When I talk to my adorable young housekeeper, who comes to help me out once a week, I always ask her, "And how are you, my Darling Poly?" 

She smiles with a tired look and replies: "Oh! Tired, but I'm ok."

This kept recurring weekly, and I felt sorry for this young soul working so hard. What could I do to help her? I kept asking myself. ... One evening, after she left, I reflected on my past at the time of Poly's present age. Married with two young children, helped run a business with my partner, moving countries. The list is too long and tedious to continue, but I could have been the twirling superwoman, minus the outfit. So, I waited till she last came to work, and as per usual, I put the question to her:

"How are you, Poly, my darling?"

She answered exactly the same in her broken English: "Oh! You know, I'm tired."

I looked at her as a daughter and softly said: "Can I tell you something, my love?"

Poly nodded: "Yes, Haldita."

I continued, "When I was working on myself to get stronger, I learned a great lesson. What we think and say has a great impact on how we live our lives."

She looked somewhat puzzled, so I went on: "When I ask you how you are, your answer is: I'm good, I'm great, thank you, like you mean it. And this will impact how you feel. Try it."

She seemed happier instantly, smiled back and said: "Good. Yes, I'm good. I'll try."

It so happened that I saw Poly accidentally only three days after this incident at a friend's house, so I asked her, "Hi Poly, how are you feeling today?"

She smiled brighter than usual and said, "I'm good, I'm very good, Haldita. Thank you."

Then he went on: "You know, after your advice, I've been practising saying I'm good, and I feel much better! Really!"

Amazing.

It was clear to me this shit works. Haha. It sure does with me all the time.

You are great as you are. Believe in yourself.